Life Coaching through a Divorce, Uncoupling, and Separation

Arguments, uncertainty, fear, misunderstanding, unheard, sex-less, unromantic, where did our love go...

You have probably only found your way to this page if you feel like change is needed. Consider the following two very different marriage definitions…

• Expansive and worth aspiring to -- Healthy relationships are not based on neediness but on the passion and excitement of sharing the journey toward becoming a whole person. (Gawain)
• Contracted and certain to cause grief -- Marriage is a process in which two individuals renegotiate who they are concerning each other and the world around them (Berger)

How do you view your significant relationship?  Ready for change? or maybe ready to take your relationship to a new level with Life Coaching for Couples?

Coaching offers ultimate support through big life changes. Probably the biggest change that we may make to our lives is to fix our relationship or to divorce, separate, or split up from our partner.

You may find the following case studies of interest. Coaching for the Broken Heart and Returning to work from a broken marriage

Life coaching can be very effective at providing a backdrop of support, certainty, understanding, comfort, and strategy while you make such a challenging change. Significant relationship change (choosing to stay in or out!) is a common reason why clients choose to work with Great Life Coach. Of course, there are two sides to the coin, and coaching can help and support people on both sides of a relationship transition.

Happy Relationship or Unhappy Relationship?

Still, reading!? Every relationship has rhythms, including a beginning, middle, and end!  Life Coaching will get you back in touch with yourself, enabling you to authentically decide if your relationship can be turned into one of common purpose, ease, and flow, or if it has come to a natural end and it is time to move on.

Many people have lost themSelves in their relationships. The relationship is no longer a supportive environment of mutual growth.

Self Help -- Try This

What's your Bottom Line?

If you feel like you have been holding yourself in an untenable relationship situation for too long.  Have you ever thought about understanding what your limits are? What is your Bottom Line?  If your partner crosses that line you must act.

Search your heart and fill in the blanks...

"If my partner did

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then I'd feel I'd have to leave the relationship."

"If my partner didn't do

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then I'd feel I'd have to leave the relationship."

"If these things were true about my partner --

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--- then I'd feel I'd have to leave the relationship."

Share your bottom line with your partner, and at some agreed time ask the question "Has my partner violated my bottom line?".

Does the relationship have a purpose?

What is your common goal? Is that purpose supporting your maturation or developing purpose?

Coaching will help you decide what action needs to be taken from the centred clarity of yourSelf.  We will of course evaluate if the relationship can be saved and then deploy a supported plan accordingly.  If you decide that it is time to move on, then with your renewed confidence, coaching can help you put together a plan and then execute that plan with unwavering support.  In every case, we can design your new life or re-invention it and deploy the plan to get you there. Sometimes divorce or separation is explored as a part of a midlife crisis.

There are many relationship books, support services, and therapies available to you, and in many cases, these may be more appropriate for you than Life Coaching – a choice that only you can know. 

Life Coaching focuses on engaging with yourself, designing your future, and then moving into action to make it happen. It is not a substitute for couples therapy, therapy, or legal services, but can act as a supporting agent for you as you use all these other services. Our work is always confidential. I have worked as a confidant for many many people. I also offer life coaching specifically for men and women separately. If you are looking to change your life situation, if you describe yourself as lost, stuck, AMBIVALENT, or caught in a relationship complexity you may find my Happiness Compass of great value. It's a great way to get you started!

Coaching support when you are Divorcing or Separating from your Spouse or Partner

If you feel you have exhausted wisdom literature relationships support services, and couples therapies and are ready to make your life change, then life coaching can help you make that change in the following ways.  Today, say YES! to the next step.

Coaching Support before the Divorce or Separation

• Loving yourself
• Loving your relationship
• Can the relationship be rescued, or do you want out.
• Exploring if sex/intimacy can return
• Get in touch and understand yourself
• Get confident
• Assertion and setting boundaries
• Understand your relationship
• Explore possible options – staying together, therapy, affairs, separation, and divorce
• Overcoming ambivalence -- Should I stay or should I go?
• Designing a strategy
• Designing a Conscious Uncoupling
• Do it!

Coaching Support during the Divorce

• Loving yourself
• Relaxation and de-stress
• Personal power and centeredness
• Confidence
• Support
• Preparing for reinvention
• After the Divorce – The Opportunity of Your New Life
• Continuing to Love yourself
• Start to Live JJuicily
• Embracing change
• Reinvention
• Reconnection with the new you
• A new career?
• New friends and lovers
• Support

Coaching Support when you are being Divorced or Separated from...

• Continuing to Love yourself
• Get in touch and understand yourself
• Embracing change
• Letting go and understanding
• Relaxation and de-stress
• Personal power and centeredness
• Reinvention
• Reconnection with the new you
• A new career?
• New friends and lovers
• Support

If you are interested in exploring if I can help you create a compelling future...  Get in Touch

Hope that helps, give me a call if you need support x