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What is
possible in your relationship?
Love one another but make not a bond of
love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same
music.
(Gibran)
How can a couple really eat
of your bread but not from the same loaf? I have seen that life coaching
can powerfully evolve a committed couple towards that special way of being. Over
the past five years I have worked with hundreds of clients many of whom are
in a significant relationship, yet so often the other partner can feel
excluded from the process. A wonderful opportunity exists when two people harmonise their
personal growth within the supportive bounds of a loving relationship. Life
coaching can reveal individual paths and help couples harmonise those paths
to powerfully work for the relationship.
Couples coaching follows a
similar process to individual coaching. The early phases of our coaching work are
usually centred
around AWARENESS. With deep support, the client becomes aware of their
current life situation and their relationship to that situation. Working
together we often reveal unique wisdom and guidance from the heart and we
arrive at an honest realisation of what is working and what needs to be
changed. Coaching is only useful if real change takes place, right? So we
then move onto the all important ACTION phase of our work where we evolve a
plan of action, and put in place a clear progression of goals and steps that
will make the onwards journey a reality. Powerful stuff when you are so
supported. When I'm only working with one half of the relationship it is important for the
client (to the extent that it makes sense for them) to take into account the
needs of their partner, adjusting their plans accordingly.
When I work with couples we undertake a similar coaching
process that deeply considers the needs of each individual AND the needs of
the relationship. What results is a very unique opportunity to
honestly embrace individual needs within the powerful structure of a
supportive loving relationship. The most powerful relationships are
those that enable individual growth journeys with full understanding and
support of each partner.... Allowing each string to be unique and alone, yet
quivering with the same music of a powerful relationship. Harmonised.
What
Couples Coaching Offers
If you don't have the relationship of your
dreams, or you feel that your relationship is ripe for becoming
evolutionarily sweet, things can change — and you can do something
about it. The only question is what to do. That's where couples
coaching can help. Couples coaching offers new perspectives and positive
options. Coaching provides you with new strategies and tools for overcoming
challenges. The process is simple, the first few sessions are all
together, we then go off onto honest individual journeys, and then we come
back together to empower the confluence of these individual journeys.
The result from this held, supported space is an opportunity to co-create
very beautiful, powerful loving relationships. Couples coaching is not
intended to replace relationship counselling or therapy, and is best applied
in healthy alive relationships. The couple will always define clear goals
for the work to be undertaken, allowing a diverse range of changes to be
supported.
If you are in a relationship and are
interested in couples coaching, Get
in Touch,
I will be happy to answers your questions and explore how we might proceed.
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